Cheaters Not Welcome

The most common subject on Twitter seems to be how the other candidate is a liar. The word gets thrown around a lot and most of the time it is simply inaccurate, not true, a bit of a fib, or one might even say a lie. Has lying become the norm?

It has made me weary. All the untruths have got me thinking about sharing social media. People who blog tend to be blog readers, too. There are certainly a lot of people who don’t read blogs at all, so the subset of the population that does, are important. We are all trying to convince them to come on over and see what all the fuss is about.

Actually, were just hoping there will be a little bit of fuss on our site. Getting readers and comments is all the payment many bloggers ever get. For most, it is enough. It isn’t easy, though.

To be noticed one needs to be out there and one way to do that is to hang out on other blogs. Mila Araugo (@Milaspage) was interviewed for a blog post on Geoff Livingston’s site that talked about comments. Ms. Araugo takes each comment she writes seriously. Not all who comment, do

You see, the comment gets your name out there, and for the people who only pretend to care about others, they just want to get it done and move on. Their comments are lies, not in their message, which is usually “great post, you made me think” …(about how much I’d like you to visit my blog and tell all your friends, and tweet about it, and put links on your site to mine, and make me a star…oh, I think Jennifer Garner should play me in the movie…I’m awesome), but lies in that they really didn’t read or care about the message the blogger put together. In short, they want a trophy just for showing up.

These same people, we’ll call them the Mugalugs, because they just want their faces seen and because I wanted to make up a word. (Note: Mugalug is a registered (or not) trademark of…shirts are available in the lobby)  I digress…where was I?

Oh yes, these Mugalugs have another annoying habit, disguised as being helpful. They are mass promoters. They tweet without reading, they share without caring what they are sharing. It doesn’t sound like such a bad thing, and I have to admit that someone promoting another person’s blog is generally nice, but they take it to a level of near spamming. It seems like lying, to recommend a blog post without reading it. Someone who does this regularly is likely ignored by their followers, so it isn’t even helpful.

I have just joined Triberr and I read every post my tribe puts up. Most of them are pretty interesting. If I like it, then I leave a comment, one that will advance the conversation or add to the theme of the post, and then I share it. My tribemates are good writers, so there aren’t many I don’t enjoy, but if I did find one, I would simply move on.

Since my renewed interest in building my blog, I’ve made a daily goal of reading ten blogs.

Dan Cristo explained why Triberr has decided to limit the number of posts to be shared (the queue) to 100. They’ve done it because of the volume being greater than their capacity to handle it. A smart business move, to be sure. Apparently, there are some heavy users who approve hundreds of posts to be shared via Twitter, Facebook and Linkedin. Reading 10 in a day is difficult, two hundred, to me, seems like a person who is trying to game the system. At the very least, they are not being social, they are being automatons (read Mugalugs).

If you blog, read a blog, and if you like it, share. There aren’t any shortcuts, well there are, and if you choose to try them, I’ll shake my head in disgust and put on my “very disappointed look”…I might even spread a rumor that  you like the  Twilight Series. I’m very serious about this issue!

Just be yourself. Do your best and try to be social.


I probably read 10 blogs a day, but it is not a chore or something I do out of support or to be part of a community.  I go through my twitter feed and see what looks interesting.  I get annoyed by the undercurrent of promotion and marketing in so much of what is out there.


I am awesome and Jennifer Garner can play me in a movie if she agrees to gender reassignment surgery. I'd like my trophy now, please. Team Mugalug FTW 4evah.


OK, now I'm done with that part: I try to read every single post I approve through Triberr, and my focus is on quality and sincerity. Sometimes... sometimes sincerity trumps quality because it lets a blogger's humanity shine through the cracks in the mask. Only the other day Joshua Wilner recommended that people show their warts from time to time. I do, and it helps me connect with others. We're not content mills, we're people. I don't ever lose sight of that.


Let's see if this works.  I do take comments very seriously - I attend, both when writing, reading and responding.


As I said over at Geoff's place on Mila's great post: I take comments very seriously. As I was going through triberr this morning, I quickly skipped over to each post I thought I would share (I always read, or at least scan a post before approving), and decided to come back here first. It will be the only site I comment on before I leave for meetings, because your topic grabbed me, and I wanted to be sure to comment for heaven sake!

Rather than re-invent the wheel here, I'll repeat my words from Geoff's place: I comment when I have something to say that I believe will add value to the discussion, provide a slightly different perspective for people to chew on, to acknowledge the work of the writer and/or to spark further discussion. (I'm also known to incite a #TeamBlogJack, but that's a whole other story, which you well know:)

I don't comment for the sake of commenting, for backlinks (I don't even know how to do that) or to self-promote. I feel that if my words and perspective are interesting, someone might check me out. If not...I don't need to push-sell myself or my ideas.

Cheers! Kaarina


Well, Mr. Meeks. There's an honest opinion. You are one funny dude.


You know, the thing that I quickly learned in the blogosphere is that if you leave a valuable comment that furthers the conversation you usually get some sort of reciprocal engagement. Brilliant statement, right? Duh!


I have experienced, many times, the response that indicates quite clearly that my post was simply skimmed and I am getting something akin to a drive by. It doesn't make me feel good so I don't do it to someone else. If I am there, I read the post. Am I everywhere? No because I can't be. Like you, I visit maybe 5-10 blogs a day. I can't do much more than that.


Thoughtful post, sir.


When I started blogging I was commenting much more than I do now. Now I read more. Sometimes I have things to say, sometimes I don't. But I try my best because it looks like everyone likes a comment. 


As for Triberr, I have now limited my tribes too. I do want to read posts from tribe mates and that is always not possible if I have a lot of posts in my stream. I don't have a daily goal but when I find time I do end up reading a lot. And maybe commenting too. Like right now, I have been so busy with college that I have over a hundred posts in my reader. But I have a long weekend coming up and I will read each one of those posts, but I might not be commenting on each and every one!


But this really is a great post!


I used to comment all the time when I first started blogging. I didn't know a whole lot of bloggers so I was very high and mighty about leaving awesome comments wherever I went. Then I started meeting more people, and all of them had blogs. And many of those blog posts are fantastic. I came to the conclusion that I'd rather not comment if I didn't have the time to say something more than, "Nice post, man." Even if I didn't truly have a lot more to say, I didn't want to give the impression that I was just after link bait. You have to compromise a lot in social media if you want to do it right. My choice is not to comment as much, but to try to put thought into any comment I do leave. Most of the time, I think I do alright :) 


LOL, well, I think there are some folks who really appreciate any comment!  And so that works for them. I am with you, I prefer a longer more thought out comment.  At the same time, when we get to blog post lengths I cry.  I also struggle with response to comments, I usually contribute a paragraph or two, but try not to steal the commenters' wind so to speak. They added, I should listen.

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 @LauraLeeAuthor That is subject that might make a good post. I, too, feel like some people overdo it a bit on the self promotion. I made a promise to myself NOT to tweet about my books more than 5% of the time.  It turns out I am way to lazy or frightened to make it to even 1%. I feel odd asking people to give my books a try, which is a big problem if one wants to be successful.  Still, I haven't pissed anyone off. All my followers seem fine with a tweet about Henry Wood every other month.

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 @ I do hope that Mugalugs isn't so close to Muggles that it has infringed upon the rights of J.K. Rowling, because I'm sure she has a greater team of lawyers than I do. 

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 @Juliabarrett Sorry it was so hard for you to get into my comments. Livefyre is a great comment system, but I can see where it was confusing. I'm glad you took the time to figure it out. Thanks.

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 @KDillabough There are plenty of people, like you, who are considerate. That is all that I ask, in all things, comments, NOT using copyright protected images, and giving credit to sources when it applies.

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 @rdopping I'm glad you enjoyed the post. I do tend to get worked up about things and it usually leads to a pretty good rant. There have been times, though, where I've gone too far and crossed the line to mean. In those instances, I didn't publish the post. When on a rant I always step back and try to judge if I've gone too far.

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 @Hajra  That is a lot of reading. I'm not sure if I would be able to get through such a stack of blog posts. Good for you.

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 @margieclayman Margie, then the mere fact that you took the time to comment here, makes me feel very honored.


I think most bloggers understand how much effort goes into creating content, but don't often consider that the post they're reading has an author who worked just as hard, and as such, deserves a modicum of effort or no comment at all.

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 @geoffliving I left a comment the other day and it was really long. After I hit post and saw how much I had rambled on, I felt bad about it. At that moment, I sort of taught myself a lesson. On the upside, I ended up using it as a blog post, myself. (lemon from lemonade)


 @ExtremelyAvg I don't think it's a bad thing.It's just me being curmudgeon.  Take it for what it is worth, yet another, opinion.


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